Marriage is a special bond between two people who were once strangers.
1. Daily conversations become `war of words`
Lately you often feel hurt by many of your partner’s actions and words.
Often, after many years of living with our partner, we stop actively listening and start making assumptions like that person has changed, that person no longer respects us… These assumptions are very common.
Therefore, not actively listening can cause your marriage to gradually come to a standstill.
Make an effort to practice active listening by showing respect for the speaker’s message.
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2. There is a lot of silence in marriage
Lately, you’ve been quiet a lot because you feel like you have nothing to say, and discussing your marital problems with others has become an interesting thing.
When you choose someone else to share with, you will unintentionally deny your partner’s role.
3. Negative factors appear
According to psychological researcher John Gottman, your marriage will definitely have problems if the following 4 negative factors appear:
Negative criticism
Criticism is making judgments about the good and bad parts of something.
Overly defensive
When you hear any feedback from your opponent, you also tend to be absolutely defensive.
Contemptuous
You often mock your partner because some of their conditions are not equal to yours such as salary, family situation, status… This makes your partner feel inferior and think that you do not respect them.
Backlash
When your spouse refuses to go somewhere with you, or doesn’t answer the phone because they are busy… you will react very harshly by raising your voice or acting impolitely.
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4. Lovemaking is no longer passionate
Sex is not only good for emotions but also helps maintain the stability of marriage.
5. Not having much time for each other
Instead of spending time together, you are busy with social fun and even when you are at home, you work separately in a corner.
Every living thing needs care.
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6. Doing nothing to save the marriage
All couples go through periods of `crisis` in their marriage.
7. Daydream about a life without a partner
Frequently imagining a life without your spouse is also a sign that you are no longer passionate about your marital relationship.
WHAT SHOULD WE DO?
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Take a moment right now and close your eyes.
At this time, your intuition will tell the truth.
After facing the truth, continue to ask yourself questions like `Do I still want to be with that person anymore?`, `What can I do to save this marriage?`
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